YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL – THAT’S THE WHOLE POINT!

 

This may sound harsh, but it’s the truth every aspiring winner should swallow:

You’re not special!

Growing up, I used to believe that somehow, things would work differently for me. That I’d get a pass, a shortcut, a miracle, that lines will somehow fall in pleasant places for me without me having to lift a finger. 

But life? Life humbled me quickly. I realised that struggle doesn’t skip anyone. It shows up on everyone’s doorstep whether you ordered for it or not – and knocks harder when you think you’re exempt. The harder I tried to evade it the harder things worked against me until I realized what I needed to do.

You see, sometimes things work against us just to extract the strongest version of ourselves that would otherwise remain dormant. Sometimes, life just sends a sh!tstorm our way for no comprehensible reason. When this happens, our job is not to complain but to NOT GIVE A FVCK. To quietly slice through each and every wall of shit life has gracefully erected to test our commitment on getting to where we say we want to get to.

What makes this truth difficult to accept is nothing but our own ego, pride, fear and entitlement. We all feel that we should somehow get the reward, but not everyone is willing to wake up from la-la land and face the soul-crushing reality. Hear this: “NO ONE GETS TO SKIP THE GRIND”. Not me, not you and definitely none of the great ones before us got that luxury.

So who do we think we are when we think we can just somehow get to the end without walking the path? Sometimes, that path get’s miry and shitty, but EVERYONE is digging through it. Until we win, we’re just like everybody else on that dirt road – just one more soul in the arena and our opponent is none other than ourselves.

If you must crawl through pain, rejection, failure, discomfort or embarrassment, you got to fully embrace it for that’s the cost of entry. No one’s going to understand you. Everyone is going to think their own shitload is heavier – and sometimes they are. 

But the thing is, we don’t really need anyone to understand, we just have to keep on putting one foot in front of the other until we can get to the place where we can gracefully dump our own load, clean up, wear a smile as if we haven’t just been through hell and watch as everyone else calls us lucky.

In the end, what separates the winners from the losers is just one more step, one more decision to keep going anyway, a little more push to finish even when we’re the ones doing the pushing ourselves. You’ll feel worn out. You’d crave quitting. You’d look back a lot of times. You’d fall and fail. You’d doubt yourself a thousand times a day. Your face will fall for no reason whenever you think about it. But what matters is that we keep moving regardless because let’s face it:

 

IN THIS JOURNEY, NO ONE IS SPECIAL ONLY THOSE WHO FINISH!

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